Everyone knows the saying never go to bed mad or never go to bed angry.. I do not agree…I think its better to: SLEEP ON IT.
During an argument lots of things are said in the heat of the moment, in anger, with pent up emotions simmering up and over – that you didn’t even know were there until they come bumbling out of your mouth which you then can’t take back.
I see myself as a witches cauldron, slowly being stirred and when that point comes of me bubbling over.. boy do I bubble over!
The Calm Jane….Cauldron
The Fire-y Jane…. Cauldron
I have a site I like to read 8 things no one told you about marriage, and one of the 8 is (You will sometimes go to bed mad (and maybe wake up even madder). This is so true (thankfully not very often) and when I read this I thought [thank god I’m not the only one who feels this way].
It points out that its best to sleep on it for a number of reasons.
- You need to calm down
- You need to gain perspective
- You need to figure out if your angry, hurt or both and pinpoint the exact source
- Its a time – out
- It can avoid silly back and forth, or the rehashing of old or irrelevant matters
- It will help you focus and stay on topic
This whole kiss and make up thing doesn’t work for me, but letting my emotions settle a bit and getting hold of myself after some sleep is the better option for me.